Destiny could be rewritten again, perhaps this time with a better version again. A passionate new love story can be written again, with less sorrow and pain in the story again. Where did this belief came from that says, one can lose his life but cannot change destiny again?
To affect your destiny, plant new flowers and fruit trees of love in the garden of life, at difficult times whether in a winter snow or a rainy spring, plant new seeds of ideas and actions with love in the garden of life again.
If one day you get to know the secret game of life and know who and what is creating it, you will know that each moment of life is like the waves of the ocean, although it is cold and brutal, it will also harmoniously bring you to the shore.
At every moment, the boundaries are wide open with no limits in the sky, open your wings and soar to your highest limits, there is where you change, and your destiny will unfold. Therefore, write a new chapter in the storybook of your life and destiny will follow. Like it or not we are the gardeners and keepers of the garden of our lives. Let’s plant new flowers and different fruit trees of love and rewrite our destiny again.
Letting Go! The Pathway of Surrender
Compiled and expanded by Sam Sadat. Based on the book of the same title by David Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D.
Letting go is like the sudden cessation of an inner pressure or dropping of a weight. It is accompanied by a sudden feeling of relief and lightness, with an increased happiness and freedom, it is an actual mechanism of the mind, and everyone has experienced it.
Example 1: You are in the middle of intense argument; you’re angry and upset, when suddenly the whole thing strikes you as absurd and ridiculous. You start to laugh. The pressure is relieved. You come up from anger and fear to feeling free and happy.
Example 2. You had a heartbreaking experience with a significant other. You are sad, depressed, upset for an extended period. You find yourself waking up in the middle of the night with a knot in your stomach and start to cry incessantly. But one day, you wake up and decide to let go and at that moment, you are relieved from pressure and pain and the world looks bright and beautiful again.
Example 3: You lose your job. You feel angry and sad. Fear permeants your entire body and mind. After many days of suffering, you miraculously have an epiphany and let go! You decide to surrender to the universe and suddenly feel relieved. Once again, you are happy and life is full of hope.
Other examples are: Not expressing your feelings to your parents before they died. Not taking advantage of a business opportunity that could have changed your life. Missing out on buying a home of your dreams, failing to act on a romantic relationship, a heartbreaking divorce, losing a job, losing a loved one, losing money, losing your house, etc.
How many of you can relate to this? Can you share your experience?
Think how great it would be if you could do that all the time, in any place, and with any event. I hope to achieve that today by helping you become aware that you can make a conscious decision to Let Go at will.
We carry around with us a huge reservoir of accumulated negative feelings, attitudes, and beliefs. The accumulated pressure makes us miserable and is the basis of many of our illnesses and problems. We are resigned to it and explain it away as the “human condition”. Everyone’s self-esteem is constantly threatened both from within and without.
What are some of ways in which we try to escape (avoid) these feelings?
We have a fear of these feelings because we have no conscious mechanism by which to handle the feelings if we let them come up within ourselves. It is not thoughts or facts that are painful, but the feelings that accompany them. Thoughts in and of themselves are painless, but not the feelings that underlie them!
It is the accumulated pressure of feelings that causes thoughts. One feeling, for instance, can create literally thousands of thoughts over a period of time. If we could surrender the underlying painful feeling, all of those thoughts would disappear instantly, and we would forget the event.
What is the surrendered state? It means to be free of negative feelings in each area so that creativity and spontaneity can manifest without opposition or the interference of inner conflict. What is the essential cause of stress? The real source of “stress” is actually internal; it is not external, as people would like to believe. The readiness to act with fear depends on how much fear is already present within to be triggered by a stimulus. The more fear we have on the inside, the more our perception of the world is changed to a fearful, guarded expectancy. For example, a negative feeling instantly causes a loss of 50% of the body’s muscle strength and narrows our vision both physically and mentally.
Who can relate to this? Any personal experience?
The Benefits of Life Crisis:
Passing through a life crisis, then, makes us more human, more compassionate, more accepting and understanding of ourselves and others. Handling an emotional crisis leads to greater wisdom and results in lifetime benefits. Another benefit from a life crisis is greater self-awareness. The situation is overwhelming, and we are forced to stop all our diversionary games, take a good look at our life situation, and reevaluate our beliefs, goals, values, and life direction. It is an opportunity to reevaluate and let go of guilt. It is also an opportunity for a total shift in attitude. We have the opportunity to choose whether we want to hang on or let go of emotional upsets. We can look at the cost of hanging on to them. Do we want to pay the price? Are we willing to accept the feelings? We can look at the benefits of letting go of them. The choice we make will determine our future. What kind of future do we want? Will we choose to be healed or will we become one of the walking wounded?
Can you relate to this? Can you share a personal experience?
The Mechanism of Letting Go
Letting go involves being aware of a feeling, letting it come up, staying with it, and letting it run its course without wanting to make it different or do anything about it. It means simply to let the feeling be there and to focus on letting out the energy behind it. The first step is to allow yourself to have the feeling without resisting it, venting it, fearing it, condemning it, or moralizing about it. It means to drop judgment and to see that it is just a feeling. The technique is to be with the feeling and surrender all efforts to modify it in any way. Let go of wanting to resist the feeling. It is the resistance that keep the feeling going. When you give up resisting or trying to modify the feeling, it will shift to the next feeling and be accompanied by a lighter sensation. A feeling that is not resisted will disappear as the energy behind it dissipates.
What feeling have you been resisting lately?
Tips to help you let go.
1. Create a list of affirmations. Something like; I now release this negative feeling forever. I now let go of “name the feeling” and choose happiness over desperation. To help you with this, it is important to know that feeling and action follow each other, right? But which one we have more control over? Yes, action. Action means movement of your body through space and time. This means that you get off your butt and get something done. Organize the closet, call people you have been out of touch with, walk around the block, sweep the yard, etc.
2. Five stages of grief are a good way to help you go through this process: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance.
The sooner you can get yourself out of denial and into acceptance, the faster you can overcome the negative thoughts. But this is only half the battle. The other half is implementing the process by which you can address the cause: the negative feeling underlying disempowering thoughts. That is where the mechanism of letting go come to play. Follow it to regain your happiness and freedom.
Homework: Make a list of the negative thoughts/feelings you are currently experiencing. Sit in quiet meditation and let go of each one per the guidelines of Dr. Hawkins.
Disclaimer: Sam Sadat is not a licensed therapist. He is trained in various self-help and personal development courses like NLP in the past 25 years. Please seek professional counseling if you suffer from deep-rooted emotional or mental issues.
Life Mentoring Forum #2 February 16, 2021